Right One, Wrong Time

Day 7/31

Do you believe in the idea that someone can be right for you, but the timing just isn't right? I think I definitely do, I think you can be compatible with someone and they both of y'all are down to be together, but the timing just isn't right and it doesn't allow it to workout...whether you're in different places, different stages of life or have different priorities atm, if the timing isn't right, it isn't gonna work out. I've been really into podcasts lately...comedy, sports, relationships/sex...for one it's really interesting/informative and two it's a good kinda background thing when you're doing other stuff like homework, chores, driving, etc...it's definitely a nice change up from music that's for sure. So I was listening to this relationship podcast and this one girl was saying how she believes that there are multiple ideal partners for a person...so instead of having like 'the one', there are multiple people in your lifetime who could be 'the one'. She went on to say like someone could be 'the one', but it might just be constantly poor and wrong timing throughout both of your lifetimes and that was really interesting to me. Have you ever been a situation where it's like the guy or girl you like just never seems to be available or the timing never seems to be right..whether it's they're always dating somebody, there's some sort of distance or you're just always in different life stages with different priorities that your paths are never able to cross and combine. Another thing I've been thinking about and learning as well and also something they discussed on the podcast is the fact that there doesn't have to be anything specifically wrong for a relationship to not work out. I think this is something I struggled with for a long time because when something doesn't work out, you obviously want to know why and if there's something you can to do change or fix it. But I'm learning like it could just be as simple as there was no chemistry or they didn't see you in a romantic way. I feel like my previous relationships or the girls I was seeing, for the ones that didn't work out with no real explanation...it really bothered me because I was like what went wrong, was it something I did or didn't do...it really ate at me and it took me a long while to accept the fact that maybe nothing went wrong and it just didn't work out. I think it's really interesting to talk about dating with different people of different ages because you get such different answers depending on what the person is looking for in a partner and stuff, especially with the podcast I listen to it's like 3 girls talking about relationships and they're all different ages so they talk about their past and current relationships as well as their approach to dating/marriage and they each bring like different life experiences, perspectives and approaches because they\re all different. It just reminded me of like the people in my life and the differing ages playing a part in what you're looking for and how serious you are about it as well. But yeah, with that...I'll see y'all tomorrow, DEUCES!