Speed Limit 40

Greetings friends...it's been a while..and I apologize. It's already midterm season...well not really midterms...since my courses are broken down into like 3-4 tests...it's a busy time let's just put it at that. I've been thinking a lot lately...just admiring the things around me...one thing I noticed...is kids nowadays...well kids back in the days as well...but A LOT so today...are in such a rush to grow up. I'm talking like kids are so fast to act mature, go partying, drinking, driving, dating, all that jazz. I can't count the number of pictures or posts I see from high school KIDS who are like oh...I'm so excited to spend the rest of my life with my boyfriend or girlfriend...like chill with that kiddo. Legit tho, the vibe I can't help but get is that kids are in the biggest rush to grow up. Lemme take you back to my time...I was certainly in a rush to grow up as well, but not as bad as kids are today. But any ways...back to the topic at hand. Back then I was in such a rush to grow up...when I was in elementary school...I couldn't wait to be in grade 8...to be the oldest at school...to run the school...to graduate and move on to high school. When I was in high school I couldn't wait to start driving, to start being more independent. I couldn't wait to be in grade 12...again to graduate...to just be top dogs...to be that much closer to 'freedom'. Now that I'm in university...literally knocking on the door of graduation...my mindset has completely changed...having friends who are in high school but also having friends who are in the work force and stuff. I see both sides and I'll explain to you how my mindset has completely changed. I've told you guys how it seemed like I was in such a rush to grow up when I was a kid...now that I'm pretty much an adult...O can't help but WISH I could slow down life...to enjoy every single waking moment...to go back and enjoy my childhood...to have fun...to do the things I used to do like spend an entire day playing video games with friends. I have a lot of friends fully inserted in the workforce who tell me how they still wish they were in school. Life is crazy man...it only seems to move faster and faster...I swear when I have kids it'll be exactly the same...first they're gonna be born and next thing they're gonna be moving out. Now that I'm about to graduate university and start another chapter in my life...i can't help but look at all these kids...and smile...but also be discouraged. Smile at the fact of just being youthful and youthfulness...but discouraged at the fact that they don't understand what they have...the freedom they have...the carefree attitude they should be having. My mindset as of late...has been to try to slow things down a much as possible...and enjoy the moment...enjoy life as it comes. Otherwise you miss it...you lose the full extent of joy you could be having. My advice to the younger generation is to have fun...live your life...school is important...but you're only young once in your life. Now...I wish I could go back and do all those things...but I'm older...my friends are busier...things are different. I'm not saying I absolutely can't do those things..I'm saying situations and circumstances make it harder to. This post is called speed limit 40 because....well for one...40 feels REALLY SLOW for me now when I'm driving...60 is like the new 40 for me lol...but I'm used to doing a lot of things fast...eating...homework...everything...speed limit 40 is a reminder to me...to slow down...relax...enjoy the moment...as busy and as stressful as life gets...don't forget to have fun and enjoy yourself along the way.

Growing Up, Growing Old Part 2

Part 1 http://thebestyouneverheard.blogspot.ca/2014/03/growing-up-growing-old.html

When you're a kid...when I was a kid...you're so carefree...what you do, what you say...there's absolutely no filter. As I've grown older and matured...I've learned that that's not really possible any more. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying you have to hold back your opinions and what not...you should know that I of all people on this blog am pretty brutally honest. What I mean is that...when you grow older...you have more responsibilities...you aren't just a kid any more...you're an older brother, an older sister, a mentor, a teacher, a role model essentially. That's what I've been learning as of late...that ,my actions...my words...may have a bigger affect on others than they do myself. What I'm trying to say is people may look up to you, watch what you do or say and mimic you. Especially if you have younger friends, younger siblings, younger students...things of the sort. You really can't just up and  say or do whatever you want cuz they're like sponges. I'll give you an example from my life...at church...there are a lot of kids...I'm a teacher...I'm pretty involved as well...back in my younge days...I would say and act how I pleased...but now things are different...I'm older, kids look up to me...and if they don't...they definitely see the things I do or say and that may or may not play into what they do or don't say or do. It just got me thinking lol...nothing to drastic...but even this blog for example...there may be people, kids or whoever who read this blog and may take something out of it. One thing that inspired me to write this was specifically on your bad days...when you're tempted to vent, to verbally or physically show that emotion...know that you're responsible for your actions and words...even on your bad days...you still gotta be careful cuz you may be someone's role model or big brother or sister.

No I'm Not Lucky I'm Blessed, Yes

A lot of times...too many times...for me at least...I pray and I thank God for getting me through tough times, for he;ping me cope with stress and things of the sort. I'm just thinking back to the sermon on Sunday where the pastor talked about thanking God for the blessings in your life...the little things...and how we don't do it as often. Like I'm thankful every waking day being able to get up out of bed and stand on my own two feet. I'm thankful for loving parents who sacrifice their everything for me...they do it all for me, so I can have a better life, an easier life...and that will always mean the world to my heart. I'm thankful for all of the little things in life...food,shelter...even school and the privilege and opportunity to go to school and get an education. I'm thankful for my brother...who'll always be my big brother...someone I look up to and look to for guidance and love.. It's funny how God works...how he connects one thing to another in your life...I'm thinking back now to like 2 weeks ago where I was sharing with a couple people in my worship team about being thankful for the little things in your life and appreciating their value even though it's always there and around you. That's kinda where I'm at lately...trying...trying not to be consumed by stress...trusting in God's plan and just enjoying the blessings in my life that God has provided,

Parental Discretion Is Advised

Sorry for nothing these past couple days...I know the highlight of your day is waiting to see if I'll put out a post LOL. For real tho, my bad lol...been busy and lazy at the same time. But any ways....yesterday at church I heard the term helicopter parents...which I've never heard of lol but could pretty much guess what it was. Parents who like never really let go, who always kinda hover over and watch over you. It just made me think about my own parents...how they'll always be watching over me...especially since I'm the youngest....I'll always be the baby of the family...and part of me will always kinda like it. My dad is like the one who shows me tough love...who never really shows emotion...who lets me do my own thing and stuff. My mom is like the momma bird who never really wants to let her young child go. If I come home late...my dad will like already be asleep and just ask me what time I came home the next day and stuff. My mom will like stay up or like be asleep but when I come home she wakes up right away lol.  I think about myself in the future...when I become a parent...I'll definitely show my son love and tell him I love him...but I'll definitely let him make his own mistakes and be a bit more free...like if he's in a fight, he's gotta be a man you know what I'm saying. If I have a daughter...for sure I'm gonna be like that overprotective dad lol...like spoil her to no ends and watch over her like a hawk.

Strangers Again

I remember a long time ago...maybe a couple years...okay not a couple, at least 1 or 2 tho...I remember telling myself, writing a post about you...telling myself that it would be the last time I ever talked about you in that kinda way or revisited anything and everything we've ever been through. I used to tell myself that no matter how far we grew apart...no matter how long we'd go without talking...when we did cross paths and say converse again...it felt like nothing changed...I still felt that deep trust with you...I still felt that intimate level of comfort with you. But as of late...when our paths have crossed...I didn't feel that, you felt...different...strange in a sense. And I've been sitting and thinking about it...not like stressing myself out...but more like pondering...about how everything we've been through...and how I used to see the world in your eyes...and now...when the random moment when our eyes do meet in the rare occasions we see each other...I don't feel much, as blunt as that sounds. The person that I used to share my entire world with...has become someone I struggle to remember.It's like buying a dog and the dog starts getting to know you...your scent...everything...you go away for like a year...it has to relearn all that ish...but...there's like muscle memory right...technically it should take a shorter period of time to relearn everything. It's different with you...there's no real retrieval process...like don't get me wrong, I remember all the times we've shared together...but things are just different...they feel different...cuz they are different. We're both different people growing and walking in different paths...and that's life...and I'm okay with that...because you aren't the same person that I once shared my entire world with...and that's okay. Wherever life takes us...if our paths ever do cross in that way again and we stop and can reconnect...so be it...but as for now...it feels like we're strangers.

You The Real MVP

This is a thank you...to my friends. Sometimes...you take the people around you for granted...cuz they're always there and you're always around them. Sometimes, you just gotta be like hey...thanks for being there, thanks for being a good friend. Obviously they already know that, but hearing it once in a while is nice you know. Just like when you're married...that doesn't mean you stop being romantic, that doesn't mean you stop going on dates and telling your wife you love her and making her feel like the most beautiful girl in the world. Friendship is the same thing...let your friend know you appreciate them...them listening, them comforting...and most importantly them being there. I love my friends...for being there for me, for hearing me out, for dealing with my craziness...and for simply being there...for telling me what I need to hear when it may not be exactly what I want to hear. Some of my favourite moments spent with my friends are literally the most simplest things...sitting in the car talking, playing board games...literally just spending time with one another. Good friends are hard to come by...and I hold friendship very close to my heart. Thank you...to those of you in my life I'm happy to call my friends...my family...I appreciate you.

Honestly, The Honesty Is Why The Game Love Us...

I've had this blog for 5 years...you can imagine the amount of trouble I've gotten in from friends and strangers alike for the words I've said on this blog lol. I've said it once and I'll say it again...I don't use this blog to hide or to avoid confrontation...it's just...my personal diary...if you know me, you should know that. You should also know that I am never blatantly rude or disrespectful...even in my disrespectful posts, I'm pretty reserved. I dunno...sometimes people take my words too seriously or to heart...y'all gotta understand...sometimes, in the heat of the moment, things are said. I'm honest...to a fault sometimes...but at least I'm honest. If you're upset at me about a recent post...an old post...I urge you to really read my words...it's not and never is said out of hate. Y'all need to relax...take a chill pill kill bill...this is my blog, this is me, if you don't like, that's your choice. Peace.